I’m a 21-year-old trans woman. To some, I’m still a kid. To my mother, I’m still a baby.
Almost all my life, going to the bathroom had been an easy thing, one of the most basic body functions. I didn’t realize that the bathroom would be such a place of contention until I began transitioning into a form of gender expression that was perceived to be transgressive.
At 16, I would walk into the men’s bathroom without an ounce of hesitation. At 21, I take a breath to decide where I’ll be today: the men’s, the women’s, or a gender-neutral bathroom, if I’m lucky.
No matter which public bathroom I walk into, I always walk in with some fear that I may be harassed, threatened, or even assaulted, as so many trans people have experienced. The idea that the simple act of using a toilet could entail danger speaks in part to the conditions that trans people live under.Continue Reading...